The aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things; That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed. Titus 2:3-5
It is unpopular to say anything that implies that it is the duty of women to nurture their homes, but what do we do with the verses from Titus? What we saw in our country in the past year is visible evidence of what happens when we do not care for our homes.
A well-kept home is a place where your family and friends will more likely want to gather. As women we can control the climate of home.
How can we fight for our homes?
- Begin with ourself. Begin with God. Read the verses above and ask God how they apply to your life. Live the importance of Christ in your life visually. Be faithful to the house of God. We are called to be examples of a believer and like many positive characteristics, this should be evidenced at home.
- Encourage your family. Tell them how you feel about the big picture of your home. Share your vision, or perhaps just the first phase. Make a commitment to them that you can keep. Sometimes making changes is better with less fanfare. You might make your commitment to God, asking Him to support your efforts. We have no doubt that He esteems family greatly.
- Choose one room of your house that is important to everyone. Where do you gather as a family? My home tends to be open concept, so when you walk into the door you walk into the gathering area, which flows into the kitchen. I like to keep my kitchen orderly because it is a workplace. For some, it may be the family room. Commit an hour to improving that area. My gathering area is reasonably tidy, but I am going to to commit to an hour today and it may be in 15 minute increments. I will wipe my cabinets down, food splashes and smudges. I will tidy up the children’s books. I will clean my kitchen window, then walk outside to give it a going-over, then back in for one more touch up inside. Not perfection, but improvement. I will sweep floors and do a quick dusting. Voila! My living area is markedly improved.
- Create a musical playlist for pleasant background listening. I use a compilation of Christian Instrumentals, mostly classical.
- I do have a compilation for children too. They are not always in the mood for it, but other times they totally get into it, singing along and dancing.
- Use an electric essential oil diffuser. They are safer than candles. I generally do not burn candles in daylight. Generally is key; I do what I want. When you have certain guidelines, breaking them is easier. A word about scent in the home: some people have allergies and some scents might be a problem. When in doubt, I may use a diffuser in my bathroom in the back of the house. The diffused scent will be subtle and less likely to create more than a pleasant whiff of an earthy scent, lavender or a seasonal fragrance.
- Once a week, make an effort to fix someone’s favorite food. Determine to make it a practice, a rotation.
- Keeping your home makes it easier to use it for ministry, for which the need can be spontaneous. This thought includes ministry to our families, the people that see our homes and live in them everyday. When your children move on from your home, they will take lessons and memories about the value of having a place to call home and what that means.
- Think about homes you enjoy being in. Why do you enjoy them? What makes them appealing?
- Recognize that supernatural blessing is a real thing when you create a home that the Holy Spirit would be pleased to dwell in. I need all the help I can get and occasionally walk through my home considering what might be an offense? My home will never be spotless visually, but I’d like to think that the spirits of my family and guests will be encouraged by time spent in the home I am keeper of.
Keeping a home is not necessarily a full-time endeavor. A woman with half a dozen school-aged children might rightfully disagree. I have never had the luxury to be a full-time homemaker. I don’t think the verses from Titus begin to imply that this is our full-time job. The Bible teaches that we have an important part in the wellness of our homes, but most of us have other “callings.” Working outside the home. Caring for an aging parent or a child with unique needs. We have calls to serve in our church or on a mission field. Let us endeavor to begin doing a better job with our domesticity.
You will notice, that I touched on 3 words in the verses above today. Keepers at home. When our surroundings speak peace to us, we are better able to fulfill other callings in our lives. If you do not know the pleasure of a reasonably well-kept home, I challenge you to create one this year.
Sweet thought about home:
If therefore our houses be houses of the Lord, we shall for that reason love home, reckoning our daily devotion the sweetest of our daily delights; and our family-worship the most valuable of our family-comforts… A church in the house will be a good legacy, nay, it will be a good inheritance, to be left to your children after you. Matthew Henry
Adding a little something to your domestic-tea, a crumpet: We have had a rugged week regarding the transition of power. So many “pundits” are speaking carelessly. When filled with emotion, it is easy to say things that might have been better said another way or not at all. While I did my housekeeping tasks today I listened to a young man that loves America. He offered a fresh perspective on how Thursday, the 6th, might have gone better in Washington D.C. I was greatly encouraged by his thoughts and wisdom. Charlie Kirk’s outreach is targeted to young people, but I find him refreshing and am reminded that there is hope for our country.
Here is a link to the show I listened to. He communicates thoughtfully and with better manner of speech than many that take to the airwaves. If you have a young person that loves America, you might tell them about this patriot.
America is in horrific turmoil because of decades of bad seed planted. Our harvest has been delayed, but is yielding now. Let us ask God to forgive us, to add His mercy to this nation and to restore our freedom. Our God hears prayer and repentant prayer is a worthy investment in our homes. Heartfelt prayer will help to ensure that ours are happy and harmonious homes. Keeping your homes requires spiritual and physical investment, good seed that will improve the harvest of our homes and our country.