If women were to list their top 3 needs, security would almost always be among them. 1 Peter 3:7 reminds me that our need for security is part of the mystery of our creation, a mystery of God’s divine design. Through God, Peter admonishes husbands that we are, indeed, weaker vessels, which generally need a bit of special care.
I think more of my need for security since becoming a widow. I need security no more than when married, but I feel it more now.
Security is a hard topic to write about. It feels vulnerable and that is uncomfortable. I would love to talk about eternal security, a blessed truth to Bible-believing Christians. The verses are many and they comfort me with truth about my eternity:
“All that the Father giveth me shall come to me; and him that cometh to me I will in no wise cast out.” John 6:37. I will in no wise cast out! He will keep me!
“And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand.” John 10:28 They shall never perish; neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand! I am safe and secure in the very hand of Jesus.
“These things have I written unto you that believe on the name of the Son of God; that ye may know that ye have eternal life, and that ye may believe on the name of the Son of God.” 1 John 5:13. We may KNOW that we have eternal life! The Bible says it; that settles it.
“For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God:” Ephesians 2:8. It is a gift! We do not take gifts back; certainly God does not take His gifts back!
But I need security today! It was easier when married to trust security. Harry promised to take care of me. Together we knew that God would provide for us because of promises of God and indeed, our experiences verified what we knew from His Word. Are these promises any less powerful because Harry is gone? Obviously not, but his absence showed me that I needed to grow in my faith, and so my experiences.
Today’s world has changed dramatically, even since Harry’s passing, but the decline began years ago, to be dramatic, let me say: The decline began in a garden! You know what I mean. America has changed, but God has not. I find great security in the unchangeability of God.
Sometimes I feel insecure living alone for concern about violence. What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee. Psalm 56:3 I am not a fearful person, but it is different when living alone. By thinking on right things throughout the day, things that are lovely and pure and of good report, I can lay me down and sleep in peace, trusting God to keep me safe. “I will both lay me down in peace, and sleep: for thou, LORD, only makest me dwell in safety.” Psalms 4:8
Sometimes I worry about finances. The bills all come in my name now. While I remain committed to ministry, my income dropped because I was the helpmeet and now I am a widow with increased responsibility. But, God! “Ah Lord GOD! behold, thou hast made the heaven and the earth by thy great power and stretched out arm, and there is nothing too hard for thee:” Jeremiah 32:17
With dogged determination, I claim this verse and after 2 years, I am still standing! “Bring ye all the tithes into the storehouse, that there may be meat in mine house, and prove me now herewith, saith the LORD of hosts, if I will not op en you the windows of heaven, and pour you out a blessing, that there shall not be room enough to receive it.” Malachi 3:10 I look around me and know I have been blessed. I still struggle with this, but, heh! Nobody is perfect! Come what may, I will always take my tithes to the “storehouse” and add offerings thereto. Harry and I looked to God together and now, I stand alone looking unto the Author and Finisher of my faith. Sometimes I just wonder with trust and anticipation what He will do next!
Will I ever be good enough? Good enough for? You fill in the blank? In what area do you worry about your inadequacies? This is normal, but not necessarily healthy. Speaking truth again: I remind myself that I am created by God for good things. None of us is perfect. Again: But God! “For we are his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus unto good works, which God hath before ordained that we should walk in them.” Ephesians 2:10 I am encouraged to trust, to leave the details to God.
Comparing ourselves to others is a sure way to invite insecurity. Few people live the lives that we think they do. Life is not easy for anyone, but for the child of God, it surely can be good. From experience, I tell you that the life of an obedient child of God is better than the life many others lead.
“That ye may be the children of your Father which is in heaven: for he maketh his sun to rise on the evil and on the good, and sendeth rain on the just and on the unjust.” Matthew 5:45. All have blessing and all suffer, but Ladies, with God as your Father, you will never suffer alone and you will always have someone, your Father, to rejoice with too!
No one can do everything, but all can do something. As I write this week, I think back to last week’s article, the tea of Ability! We are never too old to stop learning. Why! There is even a skill to finding help in the areas you need it.
Not a Scripture verse, but someone once said: “No man is an island.” Nor would I want to be – a man or an island! Don’t hesitate to search out help. Most people are happy to share their expertise and in the process, a friendship may be born or enriched.
Ladies, a good sense of humor is one of the greatest assets to life. Everything is not funny, but optimism is a grand and true trait. As a child of God, I expect things to work out and I continue to expect victories in this life. The promises of God may seem a mystery, or elusive, but the character of God is known and He promises: “For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, saith the LORD, thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you an expected end.” Jeremiah 29:11 He thinks good toward me. “Now unto him that is able to do exceeding abundantly above all that we ask or think, according to the power that worketh in us,” Ephesians 3:20.
I look at Scriptures and meditate upon them in light of where I am. Have you ever noticed that the principles and promises have little to do with how old you are or your marital status? Reading the Bible deeply and often will bring security like nothing else, no matter where you are in your life today.
Others may see my ministries as less valuable now that I am a widow, but I see nothing in Scripture that supports that, but I do see a slew of verses to encourage me to live courageously and with confidence. I see a call to faith and love, to mercy and to grace. And I am reminded that hope wraps each call with a promise.
I leave you today with a verse that almost circular. God has His eye on me. He will do for me and through me what is best. “Now the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace in believing, that ye may abound in hope, through the power of the Holy Ghost.” Romans 15:13
This is my God – the God of hope, the One that offers me joy and peace, and security. He strengthens my hope, and removes my insecurities. I am left with security and I feel safe.
THE DIP. Utterly simple, but I have been told, “Addictive.” If I serve this, I have a few copies of the recipe printed, for surely I will be asked for it. Someone told me that they ate this by the spoonful. Not speechless often!
1 pint mayonnaise; not Miracle Whip
1/4 cup fresh parsley, minced
1/4 cup fresh minced dill
2 Tablespoons dried, minced onion
2 teaspoons Lawry’s seasoning salt
Mix all ingredients together and allow flavours to marry, at least an hour. Serve with chips, crackers, veggies, or anything you choose. A baked potato topper?